Understanding Grief After Loss

Grief is something that is hard to explain, especially to others. It’s a whole collection of emotions going through you at one time. There will be times when you feel so overwhelmed that you want to scream at the top of your lungs, then seconds later you will feel physical, stabbing pains in your chest and heart. It’s like you can’t catch your breath and you’re starting to drown in this vast sea of sorrow and darkness, and there’s no shore in sight.

We never want people to leave us, especially those closest to us. If we could we would just keep them beside us forever and never let them go. Although it is brutally painful, grieving is a process that needs to happen in order for healing to begin.

A couple of days ago, something tragic happened in a nearby town. A woman and an 8-year-old little girl both lost their lives in an early morning car crash. Obviously, no one left their home that morning expecting something so heartbreaking to happen. Two families lost someone precious and dear to them that day, and it shattered the hearts of the entire community. It has weighed heavily on my mind since this occurred.

Last night as I was lying down to go to sleep, I was praying in particular for both of these families, although I did not personally know either one. God immediately laid it on my heart to create this post and relay the message He gave me years ago when I lost my brother to suicide, and was completely stuck in that moment.

As Christians, if we are not strong in our faith, it’s extremely difficult to overcome the hurdles and obstacles that get thrown at us on an everyday basis. It is literally almost impossible to survive losing someone we love. In Psalms 34:18, it states:

The LORD is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.”

Also, in Psalms 147:3, it tells us:

“He (Jesus) heals the brokenhearted, and binds up their wounds.”

The one thing we need to remember in life, no matter what we’re going through, is that God is there for us, wanting us to call on Him so He can, not only comfort us, but heal our wounds. He can heal all our wounds- spiritual, physical, mental, emotional. Nothing is too big for Him.

Whenever we suffer a loss and are stricken with grief, regardless of what stage we’re dealing with, we are to cry out to Him. We must realize how much Jesus loves us and cares for us. He doesn’t want to see us sad or upset. I’ve heard people ask why God allows something bad to happen to His Children. If He was a good and merciful God like they say, He wouldn’t have let this happen. Have you ever heard someone say that? Maybe it was you. This is what we absolutely must understand-

This isn’t Heaven. God does not cause sickness, confusion, pain. The enemy does. If we were to be healed of all sickness (physical and mental), never got hurt, never had to lose anyone or go through any type of pain, that would mean this would be Heaven. But it’s not. This is the sinful world we live in. Because of the fall of man leading back to Adam and Eve, we must deal with the consequences of this fallen world. If someone gets cancer, or suddenly dies, does that mean it was because of the sin in their life? No. It does not. God is a loving God. Yes, He can heal absolutely anyone at anytime. But as I mentioned earlier, if He did, we would be in Heaven. Not on this earth.

God promises to be with us at all times. That includes any situation that we’re in or dealing with, any hurt we are suffering with, any pain we are feeling. HE IS THERE. All we have to do is reach out and trust Him to handle every situation. We must have faith that HE will do what is best for us. When it comes to our loved ones, we want them free of pain and hurt, do we not? And God promises to heal them. And He most certainly will, though it may not be on this earth. He may call them home to Heaven, which for them is the best thing ever imaginable! Yes, it is extremely painful to lose someone, but if we pray and hold tight to the Promises of God, we will be able to succumb to a peace like no other. Think of someone you have lost recently or in the past that you loved with all of your heart. Maybe they had cancer or a sickness that just wasn’t getting any better, and they ended up passing. Though it is painful to watch them leave and not see them everyday, we must remember Who they’re with now! Jesus.

When the nights are long and you can’t seem to stop crying enough to clearly think, just know in your heart that God is with you. He’s literally as close as your breath. Sometimes we can hurt so badly that we can’t even gather or find the words to even pray. But what is beautiful, is that we don’t need to. God knows our heart. He knows our need.  So even if you can’t find the words or have the strength to pray aloud to Him, He knows your heart inside and out. He will hear your cry for help, and He will come running. Does this mean that you’re never going to cry again or be sad? No, because once again, this is not Heaven. But it DOES mean that no matter what you go through, you will find comfort, hope, strength and peace to be able to withstand it all. He promises you all of that. But we must allow ourselves to give Him complete control, and let His Will be done. We must be willing to accept whatever that is because we know that He knows what’s best for US and everyone else in the entire world. Sometimes that means healing people on earth. Sometimes that means healing them in Heaven. Either way, we must trust Him.

We must remember that God knows the future- He sees the bigger picture. He knows what lies ahead for every individual on this earth. Sometimes He may do something that makes you question whether or not that was actually a good thing. Although it may not seem like it at the time, we will understand exactly why He did what He did when the time is right.

This is the beauty of our Creator. The one who made the planets and stars, made us. YOU. We are in Good Hands, Hands that hold the entire world. And we must remember, though this world is fallen, sinful, wicked, deceitful, it is not our permanent home. It will not be like this forever. Soon, we will be in Heaven and reunited with the loved ones we lost. And we’ll realize and truly understand and grasp just why they had to leave us a little sooner than we wanted. So, my friends, remember to trust God, have faith and allow Him to work. And He promises us that if we do that, He will heal our broken hearts and bind up our wounds.

2 Replies to “Understanding Grief After Loss”

  1. I love what you’ve said here as I read this I. Cried because he is the reason I am here iv always had a hard time with Loosing a loves one but since that night when I fell to peace and gave up my fight at living and he would not allow that. I feel as if he stood before me and lifted me up him self. Ever since that night and that next day When officers came in and I was giving the help I needed so badly all I keep thinking about is how all my life if heard people ask how can u believe in something you can see over and over and my answer is this I CAN SEE. NOT VISUALLY NOT A FACE BUT HE WAS THERE HE SAID TO ME NO YOU CAN NOT HERE I AM .U ASK ME TO HELP YOU HERE I AM!!! I LOVE YOU DEARLY FOF THIS POST. I was so caught up in my own pain of losing my dad to cancer that I could not see that God knows all sees all heals all and I was so blind that my faith wavered and I know without a doubt know that I can do this because I am his daughter and my dad may go home to heaven but my FARTHER WILL NEVER LEAVE ME .I DRAW STRENGTH FROM HIM EACH DAY! WE HAVE A AMAZINV LOVING AND ALL POWERFUL FARTHER IN OUR LORD YES WE DO AND I WILL TRUST IN HIM ALL THE DAYS OF MY LIFE. THANK YOU JESS❤❤❤❤❤❤

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